Quick update for y’all… Disney trip Fall 2018 is nearly done! I have lots of stories and reviews to come, and of course more pictures! In the meantime, you can also head over to my Instagram account @merrymousewife to see pics updated every day from this trip… including two parties we attended, one of which is where I met the Seventh Sister below.
I had a Tangled/Disney themed wedding (not overly cheesy or blatant, if I do say so myself), and since I’m a musician, the music for both the ceremony and the reception was a HUGE deal! A while ago I made a list for my piano playing business about ways to add a little more magic to your wedding day, via Disney music, and figured I would share it over here. So, here are some musical ideas for every part of your wedding that will add a hint of pixie-dust!
*Marks a song I used at my own wedding!
Entrance Songs: -So This is Love from Cinderella
-Can You Feel the Love Tonight? from The Lion King (Elton John version)
-One Song from Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs
-Married Life from Pixar’s UP
-True Love’s Kiss from Enchanted
-Once Upon A Dream from Sleeping Beauty
-Learn Me Right from Brave (A friend of mine had this as her first dance song!)
-I See the Light from Tangled*
-Love Is An Open Door from Frozen
-Beyond the Sea from Finding Nemo
-A Whole New World from Aladdin
-Love from Robin Hood
-Ma Belle Evangeline from The Princess and the Frog
–You’ll Be In My Heart from Tarzan*
-Baby Mine from Dumbo
-Your Mother and Mine from Peter Pan
Father/Daughter Dance: -How Does a Moment Last Forever? from Beauty and the Beast (Celine Dion version)
-Baby Mine from Dumbo
-Cinderella by Steven Curtis Chapman (technically not Disney, but it gives the same vibe and guarantees happy tears)*
-I Won’t Say I’m In Love from Hercules*
-Someday My Prince Will Come from Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs
-Be A Man from Mulan*
-A Girl Worth Fighting For from Mulan
If I were to put together my perfect “Disney Wedding Program” with selections from this list, here’s how it would look:
~The Mousewife’s Perfect Disney Wedding Songs~
Prelude: Married Life (Because I love a good prelude!)
Entrance: So This is Love
Recessional: Learn Me Right
First Dance: I See the Light
Entrance into Reception: The Throne Room from Star Wars: A New Hope
Mother/Son Dance: You’ll Be In My Heart
Father/Daughter Dance: Cinderella by Steven Curtis Chapman
Bouquet Toss: I Won’t Say I’m In Love
Garter Toss: Be A Man
What romantic Disney songs would you add to the list?
You may have noticed that not only has the title and layout of the blog has changed, but also the web address!
Why The Merry Mousewife?
“Mouse” is for two things: it’s in honor of Mickey Mouse (or as my son likes to say, “Mi-Mouse!), still sounds like “housewife” (since that’s my primary job that I love), and also reminds me of the Churchmice from Robin Hood. Much of my growing up years were spent at church as both parishioner and as a musician, including many Holy Weeks where I would be at church every day, often more than once! My faith is still important in my life today, and a huge part of who I am, and I wanted to find a way to honor that as well.
So there you have it: Mickey, being a housewife, and my faith all came together to form this revamped blog. I think the change will help me open up a new world of writing for myself, and I hope you enjoy!
Note: It took me forever to finally get to a theater and see the new Beauty and the Beast! I was blown away by the reimagining, and wanted to share my thoughts here. If you haven’t seen it and don’t want spoilers about what’s new, you probably shouldn’t read on.
Also, you may have noticed that the blog has changed. Yes, this used to be The Disney Housewife blog! I’m trying something new that I’ll explain in a later post, and I’ll keep writing a ton of Disney-related stuffs, so please keep stopping by to see what happens!
Out of the live action movies Disney has been releasing over the last several years, I’ve seen Alice in Wonderland, Maleficent, and Cinderella, and I have to say that the new Beauty & the Beast far surpassed the others I’d seen. Before I get into it, though, here’s my quick-takes on the previous three I’d seen:
Alice in Wonderland: Forgettable. Pretty sure I fell asleep twice, because I don’t remember the end. I love the book, and I don’t even like the animated adaption much. (Love the world and that other people love it, Hate the adaption. That’s a thing, right?)
Maleficent: I was SO looking forward to this movie, and I was rather pleased with Angelina Jolie’s portrayal of Maleficent. But the overall storyline pulled a Frozen for me, aka took a turn in the middle to make an awesome villain the tragic hero. Can’t we PLEASE let the mistress of evil be, I don’t know, EVIL? It’s okay to like, and even feel sorry for, someone who hasn’t redeemed themselves by the end of a movie. (Like Dr. Horrible, everyone’s lovable villain!)
Cinderella: Cinderella is, of course, a goody-one-shoe, but that’s why we all love her. The film hilights good morals, and the movie won me over with the blue dress. Plus, even though Cindy forgives her stepfamily, her husband has the balls good judgement to exile them. Brownie points to Disney for fleshing out one of their most historically boring princes. Downside: Helena Bonham Carter as the creepiest fairy godmother no one wanted.
Now that those are off my chest… I went into Beauty and the Beast with low expectations, spending far too much of the movie thinking “Oh, they’re going to mess this scene up!”
But it was amazing!
Everything that was added or taken away was obviously given lots of loving thought, and favorite minor characters were fleshed out in a way that added to the movie without distracting from the main action.
One of my favorite things in the film was seeing the relationship between Gaston and LaFou. Everyone needs a LaFou best bro. Someone who will pay a ridiculous amount of coin to random people at the local pub just to cheer you up on a bad day. Someone who will offer you advice when you don’t necessarily want it, and someone who will tell you you’re horribly in the wrong, all while still loving you. Josh Gadd definitely impressed me with a much more thoughtful version of the endearing buffoon, one who realizes Belle’s dignity more than her suitor, and who has a conscience that guides him to realize he can’t support Gaston after he crossed too many evil lines.
And Gaston was so delightfully manipulative that I wasn’t convinced I’d dislike him much by the end of the film. In the original, Gaston is annoying and a bully, but he’s so transparent that you can’t understand why an entire village would rally with him to go attack a castle they didn’t realize was important until that day. Now he’s so good at disguising his true, vicious personality that no one, not even LaFou sees what Gaston is capable of until he’s already acting on his impulses. For the first half of the movie I kept thinking, “Gaston is too likable! How will they come back from this?” Of course, once he leaves someone to die a gruesome death because they were annoying and in his way… that did it.
But I think that’s why I liked this portrayal. Gaston actually makes the audience believe that he’s interested in Belle for more than being a pretty prize. At first he tries to relate with Belle about books, of all things. Really, truly tries. And tries to make her feel better when the townspeople are mocking her. Granted, this is all for his own ends of marriage, but he is so convincing, and so good at manipulating the entire town, that it’s scarily realistic.
With Beast, I’ll admit that I had low expectations after The Tragedy of Grand Moff Tarkin’s Face. But I was again pleasantly surprised that I never questioned whether or not Beast was real. He was just Beast.
And I love that he’s now good, and actually as nice as his staff keeps claiming he is. Beast isn’t a bully who has to be changed by a woman, he’s just battling a horrible childhood, years of depression from isolation and hopelessness, and a case of DAMMIT DON’T STEAL MY PRETTY ROSES, YOU THIEVES! (Come on, if you live in a castle and someone breaks in, protocol is that you toss people in dungeons.) He’s never truly mean to Belle, just annoyed that she’s there. He’s lost any hope that a woman would love him, so why even bother with breaking the spell?
Plus there’s the addition of Beast being literate and having a sense of humor. He’s not just won over by Belle because he’s impressed by her, they actually have things in common that they can bond over. And they even already have little inside jokes to giggle over when they’re an old married couple, like the “grow a beard” comment. #totesadorbs
And to top it off, I got a happy case of “Matthew’s back!” warm fuzzies when Beast transformed, and no one called once called him Adam. Win-win.
This version of Beauty & the Beast blew me away, but it wasn’t just seeing something I loved as a kid be performed by live people (though yes, my inner little girl squealed with delight a lot). It was seeing my favorite characters fleshed out to become more than characters with simple motivations and simple personalities, but the whole people that I grew up wanting and believing them to be.
[Note for parents: it’s a great movie even for kids, though probably not the super littles because there are a lot of intense, surprising or just darker-themed scenes, including finding out how Belle’s mom died. And for anyone worried about that hyped-up “gay moment,” it’s nothing worse than what was in the original film.]
In the middle of our first viewing I turned to my husband and asked “So, did David Bowie do this song before he died, or did they bring him back specifically to write it?” Because seriously, that song is full-on, Labyrinth-swamp-scene-headless-bird-weirdness. And it won’t get out of your head. Ever. We keep pulling Marshall Eriksons around the house, singing what we would actually speak to our son with the word “shiny” at the end of the sentence.
Phew, now that I got that off of my chest, I can say that I finally saw Moana….and I love it. (Other than the aforementioned song.) I love it because…
The music is addicting; even the background, non-lyrics soundtrack.
The Rock can sing, which is cool and actually quite nice to listen to. (Still figuring out how he fit that many tongue-tying syllables into that short of a time, because I’m going to learn it, dangit! #MusicMajorProblems)
The animation is phenomenal. I even noticed the torches people were carrying around, the second time I watched it, and it looks like real fire.
I plan on being the kind of grandmother Moana’s Granny is.
The chicken ends up being the sidekick, even though he’s almost useless and they make you think it’s gonna be the smart pig.
Mythology. I don’t know how accurate Disney kept it, but I have a long love of all sorts of mythology dating back into my elementary school days.
But most importantly, I love how there are two main themes in Moana, and even though they are somewhat opposing, they work together so well.
Theme one: “You can find happiness right where you are.”
They may have gotten the point across in the main crowd-scene song, but it looks like it takes all of Moana’s growing-up years to finally convince her of this. She has a longing for more, but she also understands the important role she has to play for her people. So, she puts aside her personal desires in order for the greater good.
Even with knowing her grandmother would support her, it takes her island starting to die to take her away from her duty in leading her people.
Theme two: You usually know your calling deep inside yourself, but it might take a LOT of outside prompting to discover and accept it.
You might be saying “Theme two doesn’t oppose theme one.” And you’d be right…. kind of.
In light of that Moana’s calling is to leave her people and complete a mission larger than her or her duty to her people, then yes, these two themes completely oppose each other in Moana’s case. She has the duty to fulfill the mission the Ocean has given her, and she has a duty to taking care of her people.
And in the end, she manages to do both: Moana completes her mission, by which her people are saved (I’m guessing, since the lava monster isn’t spoiling the sea and islands anymore), she returns to lead them (symbolized by conch shell on the stack of leadership stones[way to go to ruin the stack for your descendants, Moana!]), and helps her people return to their tradition and calling of being voyagers.
I seriously love this girl. True to her family, true to her people, true to her calling. And sassy as all get out.
I also have to say that I love Moana’s mother. She has such a small part, but it’s so important. When she realizes Moana is leaving, finally answering the call to leave the island, she doesn’t stop her. But more importantly, she helps her daughter pack. She cries as her daughter leaves, she obviously worries once her daughter is gone, but she realizes her daughter is grown and must do what she thinks is best as her people’s leader.
And that’s my stormy night brain dump, as I’m staying up, just waiting to see if any of these tornado watches turn into warnings-yay! Pray for safety in the southeast, it’s nasty over here.
Did you like Moana? Did you despise Shiny, or actually like the disco moment? Have you also been listening to the songs on repeat in your car? Let me know!
And if you have, how could you forget this handsome fella?
Or this guy?
And are you going to completely ignore that Meg’s first “true love” dumped her for another girl after she sacrificed herself to Hades for him?
I have been trying to figure out why someone would think this. Now, if they’re saying “The first guy can turn out to be a jerk,” that’s bogus. So did Gaston, though he was more up-front about it than Hans. So was Meg’s nameless boyfriend who dumped her.
If they’re saying, “Sometimes the first guy you meet isn’t the right guy, even though he is a good guy,” then my answer is
” Hi, I’m Prince Edward, I have puffy sleeves, sing, will risk my life for you, and want to marry you.”
The only reasons I can come up with for someone to think this crazy Frozen thought is
a) they are not Disney fans, just Frozen fanatics,
b) they have jumped on the Frozen fanatic bandwagon that states “Frozen is the first Disney movie to prove that a girl doesn’t need a man to save her!” and are trying to see at what else Frozen can be first.
I’m sure you’ve seen those posts about Frozen and men. They are everywhere. “Disney finally made a movie where a girl doesn’t need rescuing!”
To which I say….
…If Kristoff didn’t give Anna a ride, she would have been wolf food.
…If Kristoff didn’t help Anna, she wouldn’t even be able to find the ice palace, let alone get to it. (Remember the sad climbing attempt, and her lack of tracking skills?)
…If Kristoff didn’t have handy rope/hook/pickaxe knowledge, Anna would have fallen to her death when being chased by Marshmallow. Granted, he only softened the eventual fall, but at least they got a little closer to the ground. Really, that was cinematic cheating, everyone should have died right there in real life.
…If Kristoff hadn’t been raised by the trolls and brought Anna to them, he never would have known that bringing her back to Arandelle was the best bet for saving her.
So don’t give me that crap.
And Elsa? Elsa couldn’t save herself. She tried and made the snowstorm worse, trapping Anna as she froze. Sure, her love melted the spell, but… that was a fluke. She didn’t know what she was doing. I love Elsa, dearly, but she’s no hero.
Really, Kristoff, Olaf, and Sven prolonged Anna’s life the most. All guys, helping save her.
On top of that, the original Snow Queen story actually has a girl rescuing her one true love from the clutches of the Snow Queen, who has cursed the guy to love/follow the Snow Queen’s every whim, forgetting his lady love. The girl is entirely on her own, with little help along her journey, and actually manages to rescue the guy even when he’s on the Snow Queen’s side due to being cursed. It makes Anna’s feats look rather puny, if still adorable.
But those aren’t even the important reasons Frozen fanatics are wrong. Here are the important ones.
Remember? Pretended to be a boy, got kicked out of the army, saved China anyway, and had the EMPEROR bow to her? After her General/boyfriend said “No way I’m helping you, girl!” she snuck into the palace on a Hun hunt. Remember? No? This was mid-late 1990’s.
Sure, she was in love with John Smith, but she didn’t need him to save her. Pocahontas already had this “please don’t kill each other” and “I do what I want” attitude way before the English landed at Jamestown.
Actually, I remember this small, unimportant scene at the end where she saved his life. Totally didn’t affect the story line, though, right?
Oh yeah, mid-1990’s, almost 20 years before Frozen debuted.
Sadly, I can’t be mad at you if you don’t remember her, even though she is from one of the best. Disney. movies. EVER.
(Treasure Planet, in case you’re still lost.)
Thanks to crappy marketing, this bada$$ Disney heroine is oft forgotten. There was a moment where she needed help, but that was after getting shot while saving her crew, and she still managed to be awesome.
Lilo’s big sister! Not only was she doing her best to raise her little sister, keep a home running, and have a job, she also told her (very handsome and sweet) friend David that she didn’t have time for a relationship. She turned down his help occasionally, only accepting his help finding a job and an invite to relax with a day of surfing. She made it clear she didn’t have time for anything more, and David respected her wishes to try to do everything by herself. Heck, Nani teamed up with aliens who could have squished her in a second just to try to save her sister!
For you youngin’s who might not have seen any of the above movies because you live in a black hole with no Netflix access, you should at least have heard of Merida. It’s much more recent.
She refuses to get married because “it’s what you do,” and instead shoots for her own hand.
She learns how to be a good leader from her mother, and eventually convinces her parents to let her live her life on her own terms, bucking tradition (for the meantime) in order to grow and learn.
And can we not forget how awesome her mother is? Queen Elinor is one of my favorite Disney moms: super protective of her children, powerful in politics, and a really, really cute bear.
I could go on. Ellie from “Up” didn’t need Carl to save her from anything. In fact, you could say she saved him from living inside of a shell his entire life. And once married, they helped each other, as married people should do.
Now, Snow White. She definitely waited for her prince to fix everything. I mean, she has an entire song about it. Granted, she was mostly dead at the end of her story, so she didn’t have a choice. But she did wait around. At least she was friendly and helpful while she waited.
Cinderella. In my experience, the one used most often as an example of “sitting around, waiting for a prince to fix everything.” Really, she was doing the best she could in the society in which she lived. She didn’t want to live on the street, so she stayed with her wicked stepmother. But she never once mentioned wanting someone to save her, or even marry a prince. She just wanted a night off to feel like a normal girl and go to a ball.
It is both incorrect and unfair to most Disney girls to say that Frozen is the first Disney film that shows the first guy isn’t always right, or that girls don’t need a man to save them. Because sometimes, girls need a guy to save them.
And sometimes, a guy needs a girl to save him.
Sometimes, people of the same gender help each other.
It’s called being a decent human being.
And a lot of the time, Disney is just sticking to the original story, which involves a prince saving someone. So blame the Brothers Grimm, if you must blame someone.
Or maybe just appreciate human beings helping other human beings. That’s what we are supposed to do with our time here. So, thank you, Disney, for showing that it goes both ways, for many years.
And for those of you who are still stuck on “Frozen is the first!”?
In my first year of housewife-ing, I have learned a lot about how things really go when you are an adult setting up your first home. I’m pretty sure that when I was a child, I just thought those pictures had always lived on Mom’s walls. Of course she didn’t spend months without anything hanging there, and no way did she take two or three days to actually decide on the layout, do the measuring, and finally put a nail (or two) in the wall!
(Actually, it’s my mother. So she probably did do these things in one day within the first week of moving. She’s got some weird but cool superpower for decorating and getting house-things done.)
Now that my husband and I have been settled in one spot for several months, the boxes are finally starting to disappear. A little more slowly than I’d like, but hey, disappearing boxes is a good thing, no matter how long it takes! As we unpacked photos, empty frames that needed photos, and a few pieces of artwork, I made hanging two special paintings my top priority.
These Princess Leia and Han Solo cameos were painted by one of my best friends, and maid of honor, as a wedding shower gift to my husband and myself! She is a fantastic artist, and I’m lucky to now own a total of three pieces of her art. (I had another, a portrait of myself, which my mother commandeered.) We were super excited to receive these gifts, not only because my friend loved us enough to do this, but because of the backstory to why she painted these for us, in particular.
You see, my husband didn’t say “I love you” until the moment before he proposed.